Seems that way, doesn’t it?
Why do my friends have a house, and I don’t? Why am I ill and they aren’t? Why do they have lots of money and I can’t even cover my debts? Why are they so happy and I’m not?
Why don’t I have a steady and good relationship when everybody around me seems to have one?
Let me see if I can shed some light on all those questions.
First of all, each of us has a different life than the one we portray for others, so none of what we see is what it is, it’s only appearance. Chances are that most of the people around you like to show others how happy they are, when in fact they are miserable.
I for example know somebody who was sick and miserable on new year’s, but, instead of concentrating on getting well, she changed into her best clothes and she took a lot of pictures, “ordered” her boyfriend to pose with her even if he didn’t want to, and the next day she posted all the pictures on a social website, in an album called “Dream Holidays”, for everybody to see and envy.
She’s done all that exclusively for others, so they can praise her, and I don’t think that’s right, mainly for her. I say that because she was looking for attention in all the wrong places, which were outside of her, instead of looking in the only right place, inside. So, don’t rely on the appearances, because the reality is most likely completely different.
Second, when you are in a bad state of mind, you exaggerate the image of everybody around you, seeing them as happy as they can be, while you are not.
That’s just your mind, playing along your “I enjoy feeling sorry for myself” game, which you are so absorbed in. You need to snap out of it as soon as possible, for your own good, otherwise you will only punish yourself.
Third, it doesn’t matter what others have or do not have. You have your own life, you can’t compare yourself with anyone. You just have to be happy for everyone who has positive results in their lives and follow your own path that will bring you joy. This is a very important step in your spiritual growth.
You are not in a competition with anyone. Your life is not a marathon, think of it as a walk in the park. Let everyone pass you by, smile at them, then stop and smell the roses. Just be happy to be alive and enjoy every moment. You will be happier than anyone that way.
Neighbor’s grass is greener? No way. It’s just a different color than yours.