INTUITIA Vs. RATIUNEA – sau “De ce viata ta lasa de dorit si nu stii motivul”


einstein_creativityExista 2 tipuri de oameni: oamenii preponderent Intuitivi, si oamenii preponderent Rationali.

Conform unor studii, cei intuitivi folosesc preponderent partea dreapta a creierului, iar cei rationali preponderent pe cea stanga.  Emisfera dreapta este responsabila cu partea creativa, procesarea emotiilor, senzatiilor, culorilor, sunetelor, imaginilor, pe cand cea stanga se ocupa cu statistici, planuri, scenarii, calcule, plusuri si minusuri.

Cumva, pare ca partea dreapta a creierului este controlata in mod direct de intuitie, adica de suflet, in timp ce partea stanga pare sa fie goala de orice sentiment, si condusa de ratiune, cu toate calculele ei.

Oamenii intuitivi se inteleg perfect. Pentru ca se simt. Oamenii preponderent rationali se inteleg si ei perfect. Intuitivii si rationalii nu se inteleg. Unul vorbeste chineza, celalalt swahili. Pentru ca un intuitiv sa inteleaga un rational, trebuie sa-i ceara multe detalii si sa-i puna intrebari, pentru motivul ca rationalul nu transmite emotii, ci emite ganduri, scenarii, calcule. Vorbeste despre lucruri palpabile, concrete, uneori matematice. Iar pentru ca un rational sa inteleaga un intuitiv, trebuie sa-l faca sa vorbeasca pe limba lui – in cifre, concret si palpabil.

Intuitia si ratiunea au fiecare rolul ei: cand intuitia functioneaza, starea ta este una buna spre foarte buna, pe alocuri extraordinara. Zambesti, esti in flow. Toate semafoarele sunt verzi, lucrurile se potrivesc de minune, vin doar chestii frumoase spre tine. Cand insa starea buna este inlocuita de una proasta, intuitia dispare. Iar pupitrul de comanda este preluat de ratiune, care a fost creata pentru a nu lasa corabia fara cineva la carma. Ratiunea va fi prin urmare prezenta in cazul in care o persoana simte emotii negative: frica, stres, furie, tristete.

Sunt un mare fan al descoperirii de sine. Iar rezultatul analizei de o viata asupra propriei persoane, dar si a altor persoane, spune urmatoarele: in momente in care ratiunea e la carma, statisticile, scenariile si calculele (desi facute pentru a lua cea mai buna decizie) sunt de cele mai multe ori dezastruoase. Luam decizii calculate, dar proaste. Si ne intrebam de ce. Si ca sa raspund la aceasta intrebare, vom trece la nivelul urmator: constient vs. subconstient.

Mintea constienta proceseaza 40 de stimuli de mediu pe secunda. Enorm, nu? Nu. Pentru ca subconstientul proceseaza 20 de milioane (!) de stimuli de mediu pe secunda. Hm…. Deci. Fara deci. Constient: 0,0001%, subconstient 99, 9999%. Credeai ca iti controlezi viata in mod constient, nu? Sucker.

Imagineaza-ti un mic scenariu. Mergi pe strada, avand o stare buna. In 5 min, starea buna e inlocuita de una oribila, cu o durere incredibila de cap. Nu-ti vine sa crezi. Te intrebi de ce. Constientul raspunde: “O fi de la vreme”. Multumit de raspuns, iti continui drumul in ignoranta. Nestiind ca, mergand pe strada, pe langa tine a trecut neobservata (neobservata de constient, observata insa in cel mai mic detaliu de subconstient) o persoana care semana si avea parfumul identic cu cel pe care il avea iubita ta din liceu, pe care ai surprins-o tinandu-se de mana cu altul, si care ti-a rupt inima in doua. Amintirea dureroasa a adus in prezent numeroase alte dezamagiri in dragoste din trecutul tau, care adunate ti-au creat imaginea de loser, de care fug toate femeile. Senzatia de depresie s-a accentuat, iar ratiunea a inceput sa caute solutii pentru de-loserificarea ta, intr-un ritm de 5-10 ganduri/secunda, dand nastere la o mini-durere de cap. Negasind solutii, cautarea a continuat, durerea de cap amplificandu-se. Iar tu crezi ca e de la vreme, si iei un nurofen. There you go.

A incerca sa intelegi cu mintea constienta pe cea subconstienta (adica cu 0,0001% pe 99,9999%) e echivalentul unei situatii in care o furnica incearca sa inteleaga cum functioneaza universul. Sau a alteia in care un om incearca sa construiasca un bloc de 10 etaje folosind un singur ciocan. Nu zic ca nu se poate, insa e oribil de greu. Motiv pentru care ar trebui sa fii recunoscator pentru momentele de claritate, de “A-ha!”, de “Evrika!”, in care pur si simplu ti se aprinde un bec, iti pica o fisa, sau esti luminat de un reflector divin. Sunt nepretuite.

O prietena mi-a zis odata ca trebuie sa existe un echilibru intre intuitie si ratiune. Sa coexiste. Nu. Lucrurile nu functioneaza asa. Ele nu pot exista concomitent. Sunt doi boxeri pe ring. Unul trebuie sa fie mereu castigator, nu amandoi. Pentru ca se bat cap in cap. Rar, dar rar de tot – cad de acord. Adica ratiunea pica cu calculele pe intuitie. Cand intuitia functioneaza, nu functioneaza ratiunea. Iar cand ratiunea functioneaza, nu functioneaza intuitia. Cand ai o stare buna, nu poti sa ai concomitent una proasta. Si nici invers.

Ratiunea e pana la urma doar o ultima solutie, un backup, un last resort. Pentru momentele cand starea ta nu e una prea buna. Doar ca… in lumea in care traim starile noastre sunt preponderent proaste. De-aia suntem guvernati de frica, stress, furie. Prin urmare, cream o lume rationala. In care intuitivii sunt o raritate. Deciziile noastre sunt calculate, luate pentru ca “trebuie” sau in scopul de a preveni o durere viitoare. E, nimic nu “trebuie”, iar durerea viitoare te ajuta sa cresti mult mai mult decat confortul caldut.

Copiii pana la 3-4 ani sunt preponderent intuitivi. Pana cand mediul ii transforma. Noi ii transformam in copii fidele ale noastre. Rationale. Sa ne oprim, zic.

Intuitia este sufletul tau. Suflet care poate a existat in corpuri diferite pe parcursul a miliarde de miliarde de miliarde de miliarde de ani. Are informatii pe care evolutia ta, de la bacterie, pana la forma actuala, de om, nu le va avea niciodata. Pentru ca informatiile din evolutie sunt strict legate de supravietuire, transmise prin ADN de la parinte la copil. Iar informatiile pe care le are intuitia sunt legate de progresul tau ca spirit, de cresterea ta emotionala. Vrei sa ai o viata frumoasa?

Intuitia. Inestimabil atu. Ai incredere in ea.

A different Easter/ Un Paste diferit


 

Varianta in limba romana

A different Easter

lumanareI attended the Easter mass, at a small church located in a equally small village. Although I can’t say I’m much of a church goer, this time I went purely out of curiosity, to see what’s going on.

In order to skip most of the lengthy service, a few hours long, Continue reading

Is your age really your age? Think again!/ Este varsta ta cea reala? Mai gandeste-te!


 

Varianta in limba romana

Is your age really your age? Think again!

 

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Today, as I was aimlessly surfing the infinite news that Facebook chose for me to see, with nothing new in sight and hoping for a “1” colored in red to appear on the top of my screen, something happened.

I got a friend request!

“Wonderful”, I said to myself, feeling refreshed. As I approved the request, immediately I Continue reading

“I don’t even have time to masturbate anymore!”


I don't even have time to masturbate anymore!Those words came upon me like a bolt of lightning. It happened recently, last Sunday evening, as I was spending time with a few friends, discussing this and that.

And no, my blog isn’t about sexual issues – just in case you were wondering. Do you want it to be about sexual stuff? Just kidding. Seriously, do you? Kidding again. Let’s move on. 🙂 Continue reading

Magic happens!


Razvan Costea - Magic happensLast evening I spoke at an event, in front of almost 100 people.

The topic, set by the organizers (5MS.ro) was “The break”, and I chose to incorporate it into a story about my life, and share with the wonderful people there how I found my true path in life.

On my way to the event I was pretty nervous, and I was struggling with fear of speaking in front of all these people. The difference is, whereas on different occasions in my past I chose to let that fear control me and give up whatever I was doing, this time I chose to act, in spite of it.

I knew that deep down inside I wanted to be on that stage, and that desire was stronger than the fear. Little did I know that life would reward me in the most surprising way for this decision. Continue reading

Getting ill – Good or Bad?


illnessYou may wonder: how can an illness be good?

And you may be curious to find out. Let me see if I can shed some light on your question.

The vast majority of us suffer from an illness of some sort. Be it something like allergies, obesity, constipation to more serious conditions, like diabetes, cancer or AIDS.

I have a vast history with illness, 20 years of suffering from a chronic gastro-intestinal disorder.

All those years of having it I kept wondering: “What is the cause of it?”

In my case, Continue reading

Does Education matter?


Most of the people I know only went to school for three reasons.education

First: because everybody does it and they don’t want to be at a disadvantage, second: it seems to be the normal thing to do, and third: because their future or present employer demands it.

It may be one more reason, and that is parents pushing them to do it, but that does not always apply.

Most of the great minds in our world’s history didn’t change the world because they went to school, but because Continue reading

Being an actor in your own movie


Actor in your own movie

Actor in your own movie

Each one of us, at one moment in our life, has been a subordinate. Most of us still are, to this day. None of us likes it.

We all dream of being free to make decisions that are beneficial to us, instead of following instructions that, in most cases, are detrimental to our well-being.

We dream and dream, but fail to act.

Opportunities fly by each day, but we are so busy that most of the time we don’t even notice them.

And, when we do, we  Continue reading

Appearances


We live dual lives.

The real one and the one we want others to see.

The latter is meant to project an inflated image of ourselves so people can say: “Wow, your life is great!”. This is illustrated especially on social websites, where everybody likes to brag.

We post our absolute best pictures, our new car, the places we’ve visited, our loving relationship and so on.

However, in reality we may Continue reading

Distractions


Life is like a game of golf:

When someone distracts you when you’re about to take a swing, you might hit the ball the wrong way and send it to the trees instead of the green.

All golf players know that it takes time and energy to get the ball out of there.

Your life is basically the same: any distraction that gets your attention takes you away fromyour path, from what you want.

Actually, most people find it very challenging to concentrate on what they want without being distracted. It’s just a matter of time until they get off track, but, with a little work and dedication, it can be done, you can keep focused.

Imagine one day waking up in a good mood, Continue reading